As a self avowed loner, this research showing personal connections are important to a long life bothers me. I had hoped that Cacioppo’s writing in Loneliness that we each have differing levels of engagement that are necessary would apply. Having a lower threshold might protect against depression, anxiety, and suicide that plague men.
Pinker seems to be saying that having someone who will check up on older people is what prolongs their lives into becoming centenarians.
If the above does not work, then try TED Talk: The secret to living longer may be your social life.
From TED Talk: The secret to living longer may be your social life published November 14, 2017 at 07:22AM.
Nothing frustrates me more than the non-update. I define it as:
a communication issued within the promised window of time to express the status of nothing has changed and to establish another window for an update.
I am patient and willing to wait for a real update. When I see an email from someone I am waiting to hear from, there is the surge of dopamine in anticipation of a completed task. Only to receive the disappointment of that surge of neurotransmitters being falsely exerted. I feel betrayed. Well, not at first, but when I’ve been strung out over and over, I come to feel like they are terrible at their job.
Save yourself the trouble.
- If you think you can have an update for me tomorrow, then give yourself an extra day. If you think you can this week, then give yourself an extra week.
- If there are obvious difficulties present such as your people are at an all week meeting, then do not commit during that event. Give me a time after it is over.
- If there is any likely stumbling block, then let me know ahead of time rather than after which sounds like an excuse. A vendor told me on a Monday they would have something for me that week only for me to find out the next week the system needed went down for upgrades and would be down two weeks. As soon as they learned it would be down, I should have been told rather than have to learn about it later.
- Hedge by giving me a range of time. “I’ll try to have this to by x. but it might be as long as y.”
From Non-Update published November 08, 2017 at 07:06AM.
What makes you, you? Psychologists like to talk about our traits, or defined characteristics that make us who we are. But Brian Little is more interested in moments when we transcend those traits — sometimes because our culture demands it of us, and sometimes because we demand it of ourselves. Join Little as he dissects the surprising differences between introverts and extroverts and explains why your personality may be more malleable than you think.
The Big Five personality test is well regarded in psychology compared to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Little spends quite a bit of time on the trait present in both: Extraversion and Introversion.
My favorite quote: “Introverts prefer contextually complex, contingent, weasel-word sentences. More or less. As it were. Not to put too fine a point on it… like that.”
If the above does not work, then try Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality
From TED Talk: Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality published November 07, 2017 at 07:24AM.